Have you noticed that when we start to teach something to another person we might slow down our words, try to talk clearer, or even revise the way we say something once we realise the other person doesn’t know what we want, ie. They haven’t learnt it yet.
I use the words “exaggerate to teach” when we have to make the firsts of things bigger, slower, clearer. We break things down into smaller more detailed steps, we might use a bigger voice, more eye contact, or even physically support their hands to complete a task, or visually model the task out first to then let them have a go. I call all of this “exaggerate to teach”.
I might even go as far as to say I compliment bigger, and put more effort into praise when they get something right because they’ve learned something new, and that is exciting, isn’t it? Also using the “every opportunity to give a good face” concept my face would hopefully be a big, clear, excited, happy face in this moment, because learning should be exciting, not scary.
With the horse I might exaggerate by using movements and tone, bigger arms, bigger hands and definitely bigger pats, hugs and releases when they learn something new. If you’ve ever been in a session with me you’ll know how special the release is for a horse, and how much we encourage people to look for the releases in the horses body, like floppy ears and neck, soft lips, a big breath out, blowing raspberries, a soft swishy tail, chewing or licking. When was the last time you let yourself have a good big release in your body, a dance in the kitchen, a good vent, a massage, a big drink of water? All of these things can be how we release tension, but so many people that come to us have a huge amount of tension in their bodies, so being able to teach that to others through exaggerating the release of tension is just the beginning.